Holding a party often makes people confused. Many things must be done and prepared well. We always want out party run well and everybody enjoy the party. It is not an easy thing. On the other hand sometimes they have limited time to prepare the party themselves.
What do our husbands want? Well, first, they want you to understand their position. “I want my wife, Debra, to understand how my children are feeling and to understand that as their father I can get mad at them and two seconds later I’ve forgotten about it and that’s just part of being a dad,” [...]
But most men in stepfamilies feel a certain degree of torment about it or guilt or worry or anxiety. If you are negotiating with your partner around that, you want to be able to speak to that. You want to lead by empathizing.” So if your husband sees his kids only a few nights every [...]
It’s vitally important that you and your husband learn to communicate and get your emotions out on the table. A stepfamily in the beginning is a fragile thing, and you want to do everything you can to strengthen those bonds. As I’ve said all along, you’ve got to have a solid relationship with your spouse. [...]
“It forces the stepmother to do a couple of things: First, assess a father’s contribution to his children and reflect in a way that will help the father understand how powerful and important his role is. “The second thing is to plan and make sure there is adequate time and the support to make that [...]
We have to remember that our husbands were fathers before we came along. It hurts them to think they are being bad fathers. They want to be there for their children. And as new wives to men with kids, we cannot stand in the way of the relationship our men have with their children. A [...]
After a dad goes through divorce, the amount of time he gets to see his children typically decreases quite dramatically. Imagine for a moment how you would feel if you had your own children whom you saw every day.
Especially during the early years when everyone is still trying to figure out where they stand and the kids are reeling from the divorce, you can get some high-conflict situations that can derail a brand-new marriage if not handled with care.
Many dads talk about what it feels like to be stuck in the middle. As you’ve most likely figured out by now, you’re not the only one who needs your man. Erik is the father of four children, ages 7 to 16; his new wife, Julie, has been a part of the family for two [...]
As the new wife to a man with kids, try to keep in mind what’s going on inside your man even while you’re in the middle of a huge transition yourself. Joshua Coleman, author of The Lazy Husband: How to Get Men to Do More Parenting and Housework and The Marriage Makeover: Finding Happiness in [...]