What He Wants
What do our husbands want? Well, first, they want you to understand their position. “I want my wife, Debra, to understand how my children are feeling and to understand that as their father I can get mad at them and two seconds later I’ve forgotten about it and that’s just part of being a dad,” [...]
Communication Part (2)
But most men in stepfamilies feel a certain degree of torment about it or guilt or worry or anxiety. If you are negotiating with your partner around that, you want to be able to speak to that. You want to lead by empathizing.” So if your husband sees his kids only a few nights every [...]
Communication
It’s vitally important that you and your husband learn to communicate and get your emotions out on the table. A stepfamily in the beginning is a fragile thing, and you want to do everything you can to strengthen those bonds. As I’ve said all along, you’ve got to have a solid relationship with your spouse. [...]
It’s About Time Part (3)
“It forces the stepmother to do a couple of things: First, assess a father’s contribution to his children and reflect in a way that will help the father understand how powerful and important his role is. “The second thing is to plan and make sure there is adequate time and the support to make that [...]
It’s About Time Part (2)
We have to remember that our husbands were fathers before we came along. It hurts them to think they are being bad fathers. They want to be there for their children. And as new wives to men with kids, we cannot stand in the way of the relationship our men have with their children. A [...]