What do our husbands want? Well, first, they want you to understand their position. “I want my wife, Debra, to understand how my children are feeling and to understand that as their father I can get mad at them and two seconds later I’ve forgotten about it and that’s just part of being a dad,” Jake says.
“She doesn’t feel the same way about them. She cares for them and has feelings for them, but it’s different. She gets upset with them and holds onto it.”
Second, they want you to be able to relax and roll with it a little better. I know at the beginning it was easy for me to get tangled up in the smallest things, such as a kid putting the dishes in the dishwasher facing the wrong direction. Finally I had to ask myself, “What’s the big deal? Who cares if a kid puts the dishes into the dishwasher facing a different direction than I do?”
I mean, come on, the dishes are in the washer instead of left somewhere to rot and stink. This is a good thing! The fact is, life in a stepfamily is full of compromises, and how well you do can be determined by how you and your husband negotiate and how well you can let things roll off your back.
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